Showing posts with label Resiliency. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Resiliency. Show all posts
Tuesday
Overcoming Adversity on the Path to Success
This article will continue my evaluation of the most recent high school soccer season. We had a good year, one of the best in the program's recent history going 10-4-3 overall. On the face of it, that's not too shabby. Closer inspection reveals the three ties and one of the losses all resulted from allowing goals with under 3:00 minutes left on the game clock. In fact, one occurred when a goal was allowed with just :03 remaining in the match. Allowing late goals in these matches produced a strikingly negative impact on our record. Even more disturbing is the fact we completely and totally failed to compete in two of our losses, How can a team with 10 wins lose games by scores of 0 - 8 and 0 - 9?
MENTAL TOUGHNESS
More accurately a lack of mental toughness was behind those two lopsided losses and allowing late goals that robbed us of favorable results. This is what has been constantly on my mind these past few weeks. How do I help the student athletes develop better mental toughness? I will explore this in today's writing.
I know where we stand and I have a clear vision for where we need to go. The journey between the two points is the off-season's undertaking. I'm going to identify specific areas where our team is lacking and attempt to set a course that will develop or enhance each of these areas.
For me, mental toughness begins with COMMITMENT. The more committed one is, the more difficult it is to relinquish one's goals. In other words, the more invested one is in a process the more difficult it becomes to give up on the process until achieving what you set out to do. This process calls for a clear vision of what the desired result of a process is and a well defined plan to achieve the desired result.
I recognized the lack of commitment early on with this group. It manifested itself in a variety of ways some of which I will identify today beginning with off-season opportunities that were missed by most of the team.
Sunday afternoon open gym futsal. We had a small core group who attended all or nearly all of these sessions. Sunday afternoon was chosen so as not to interfere with other extracurricular school activities. These were completely voluntary workouts and therefore an excellent indicator of an individuals commitment to the 2016 season. The day and time of the weekly event were consistent and well established in advance so as to allow student athletes to plan ahead to attend. Those who made an investment in a 2 hour weekly opportunity to improve would prove to be committed to the team. That group was much smaller than I anticipated with a few would-be key members of the team not showing to any of the opportunities afforded to them. I was alarmed by this and my concern would prove to be well founded.
As winter weather began to break and spring advanced upon us we began small group training. Again, Sunday afternoons were the day and time of choice so as not to conflict with other extracurricular activities. I also offered alternate times as participation lagged making myself available at their discretion instead of mine. Attendance at these voluntary workouts was so poor we eventually abandoned the process entirely. This near total failure raised a huge red flag about the commitment level of the individuals who would comprise our team that next fall.
Recognizing a lack of commitment to the team was of concern, I set about establishing a visual commitment metric to encourage and promote greater participation and deeper commitment. This came in the form of a "money jar." I went to a local discount store and purchased a one gallon plastic jug with a lid. Each time we gathered as a team each individual player was to deposit one penny into the jug. As the jug filled with pennies it would provide a visible measure of our commitment to the TEAM and one another. The proceeds would go to a needy family or be donated to a local charity. This project began well and initial momentum carried us through 10 days to two weeks before participation dropped off significantly and eventually stopped altogether.
I want to be clear, we never did have 100% participation in this endeavor. From the start some made the conscious decision to not participate. Others wanted to participate on a limited basis preferring to donate a lump sum to cover a week, month or the entire season. Obviously, these individuals completely and totally missed the point of publicly renewing their commitment to the TEAM on a daily basis. By the end of the second week even the captain in charge of the money jug had fallen off course as he quit bringing it out of his car and into the presence of the TEAM so people could add a penny each day.
Towards the end of the season, after the two devastating losses mentioned earlier, I made a point of the missing money jar. I drove home the concept about lack of commitment to the team - more precisely to the underclassmen on the team for the seniors had already squandered their opportunity, and therefore their season The money jar made a brief reappearance although few if any actually contributed. First another senior took the money jar with a proclamation that he would bring it to every team function. He failed to bring it to the very next team activity, I kid you not. Next another senior took charge of the money jar and to his credit he did bring it to every team function the rest of the season and even to his exit interview. One player, allow me to repeat that, one player brought a penny to their end of season interview to be placed in the money jar,
So, obviously our commitment to TEAM and one another must be strengthened before we can even begin tackling mental toughness. We must change how we think about TEAM before we can change our approach to preparedness and eventually change how we confront adversity and define who we are.
RATIONAL THINKING
I have questioned myself concerning the level of commitment I am asking for from the members of our team. Am I asking for too much? I do not believe so as past experiences have proven to me what it takes to be a successful program. Obviously a significant number of players believe other wise and that difference of thinking is where the challenge lies.
The question I will put forth to each individual team member concerning their commitment level is this; how will continuing to approach soccer and the soccer team as you have in the past help you to feel good about yourself, your performance and to achieve our stated goals? Were you satisfied with the season just completed? If not, what changes are you willing to make so as to achieve more success? Of course, in asking this question I will run the risk of individuals acknowledging they were quite satisfied with the season just completed. That is a risk that must be taken if only so the answer more precisely defines the challenge being faced. For a program that had not won 10 games in one season in many years, it is quite possible the players rational thinking is that what they did in preparing for last season is good enough. It wasn't, but focusimg on 10 wins over six poor results could cloud their thinking.
This is where RESPONSIBILITY and ACCOUNTABILITY come into play. Part of being mentally tough stems from taking responsibility for our approach to the TEAM and the game of soccer. Are we accountable for our thoughts, words, deeds and the rewards or consequences that stem from them? We will encounter adversity. That is a fact. To survive adversity we need to focus on things within our control. Elimination of adversity is not a possibility. We will face adversity, so the key becomes how we handle adversity. Nothing and no one can bother, distract or upset us without our granting them the ability or permission to do so. This is, in part, the reasoning behind my mantra of Next Play! Whatever the adversity we encounter we must focus on our RESPONSE to it.
We might blame officiating or bemoan poor performance by teammates or coaches, but the ultimate responsibility will always remain the domain of each individual player or coach and by extension the collective of the TEAM. The referee misses a call or makes a poor decision - do we respond by arguing with the referee or by staying involved in the game and moving on to the next play!? When a teammate makes a mistake that adversely impacts the game do we chastise him continuing a chain of negativity or do we "pick him up" and help him to refocus on the things still under his control?
Dealing with adversity often involves ADAPTABILITY which is in and of itself about our response to the adversity encountered. Adversity, by nature, removes us from an established comfort zone. We have certain expectations for how things will play out and when they don't go exactly as planned we need to be adaptable. This is true in soccer and in life. Change is uncomfortable as it removes us from an established comfort zone, but we must accept some level of discomfort and pain in order to learn, adapt and advance. If we fight change we will soon be left behind which is exactly what happened in each of our poor results last season.
RESILIENT people do not see themselves as victims of adversity or change. They do not complain "why me" and lament their "bad luck". Resilient people recognize bad events as a normal, if unwanted, part of life then adjust or adapt to the new reality of the situation. Dynamic individuals and teams are relentless in their adaptability, creativity and ingenuity to not just survive adversity, but to adapt and overcome adversity in continued pursuit of their vision.
An individual or team vision is defined by goals set. What does the individual and or TEAM seek to accomplish. Again, I had encountered adversity in coaching last seasons team when the seniors set their goals both during the summer and once again when goals were revisited just before the regular season began. Almost all conceded losses to the "big three" of our conference and established a goal of winning the remaining 13 regular season games and at least one post season tournament game. We were defeated in 3 matches weeks before we actually played those matches. We had no chance to be resilient in losing to these teams for we never allowed ourselves the opportunity to engage and overcome the expected adversity.
Having goals and being resilient in overcoming adversity, difficulties and setbacks in pursuit of said goals means we will persevere while tolerating short-term frustration, discomfort and pain for long-term success. Persistence and Resiliency are key; many people decide to simply give up and seek an easier route to a lesser goal or result. Due to a lack of commitment, most people lack the ability to be adaptable to setbacks that force an adjustment to the process they have defined to achieve the goals established for themselves and their TEAM. In short, CONFIDENCE is missing.
The words confidence and belief are inseparable; you can't have one without the other. Our confidence will endure certain ebb and flow according to different circumstances or events (adversity) we encounter. Mental toughness or our resiliency depends on our ability to remain steadfastly focused on the goals we seek to achieve. These goals are not always tangible as in the number of wins we seek to accumulate in a season or the winning of a championship. In fact, the most important goal to focus on is a simple one - to improve every time we step on the field. This will allow our confidence to continue to grow and expand.
I have often spoke and written of comfort zones. I firmly believe the game (and life) begin at the end of your comfort zone. In speaking with a fellow coach recently I remarked that some our athletes seem afraid of success. Individual athletes and or their collective teams come to the brink of real success only to fail to achieve said success. When faced with the prospect of persevering to actually overcome adversity and claim success / achieve their goals they crack under pressure and retreat to a previous comfort zone. Their established comfort zone becomes a comfort trap.
I have given this deep consideration and believe a failure to accurately assess the threat to our comfort zone inhibits the ability to establish new comfort zones. If we look upon the challenges adversity presents as unrealistically dangerous or threatening to the establishment of a new comfort zone we choose to remain where we are. In a sense, it is amazing what we can become comfortable with when we choose a course of unchanged action.
IF WE AVOID FAILURE, THEN WE ALSO AVOID SUCCESS.
I have described this avoidance as a fear of success. Each degree of success brings with it new challenges. If we think of each degree of success as a newly established comfort zone we can begin to sense the amount of work involved in being committed to success. Our Rational Thinking in pursuit of success (or living life to its fullest) must focus on taking calculated risks designed to purposefully move us up the comfort zone ladder. We will likely fail before we succeed. Through our adaptability, our ability to adapt to and over come circumstance and events, new confidence is found. Being resilient is about being accountable and responsible in facing failure, learning from our failures and moving forward from our failures. We must shrug off the shackles of self-imposed limits and our restricted views of reality to open our minds to ever greater possibilities and ever greater success. This is what being mentally tough is all about.
Sunday
Mental Toughness
Teach them to work... intelligently.
Teach them to compete.
Teach them to win.
Sometimes that last step is the most difficult to achieve. No two situations are alike and there are so many different factors in play in the process. If I were to lump many of these factors together I would call the collective mental toughness. Factors that might be included in this group include the following:
Attitude: The quality of decisions we make directly reflects the quality of our play. In the case of attitude each player has a choice to make between having a positive attitude or a negative attitude. Whatever decision an athlete makes will directly impact his teammates as well. Both positivity and negativity are contagious.
Concentration: Teams that can bring focus to bear on relevant game related factors have a much improved chance of performing well. The details of the process are factors we can control because they involve decisions we must make. These range from executing with proper technique to knowing, accepting and adhering to individual roles on the team. In short, taking care of our individual business so we may be trusted by our teammates. Are we responsible in our technique, tactics, physical fitness and mental approach to both preparation for and playing of the game?
Preparation: I strongly recommend athletes develop a daily in-season routine with a focus on proper nutrition, proper sleep, proper physical preparation, proper mental preparation to play. Failing to prepare properly is preparing to fail. This is a basic truth, but one many athletes do not give full due consideration to. Goal setting is also a part of preparation. This means constant monitoring of goals, possibly adjusting goals in-season. And constant discussion of the process to achieve our goals is necessary.
Resiliency: The best teams I have been a part of have been resilient. As I have considered this trait it occurred to me that in club soccer while at tournaments I was often times unsure of our opponents playing level. I would research teams on the Internet or by word of mouth through coaching colleagues. I tell the cub teams we might be in over our heads even while encouraging them to play every minute of the game to the best of their ability and we'll see where we are at the final whistle. In taking this approach I have allowed the team to think of the possibility they will encounter adversity but also that we will continue playing through it. Visualization. Encounter adversity and plan for it. What will be our response? Develop a clear and strong concept of what we can control and focus on these areas while blocking out all things beyond our control.
Belief: It all comes down to believing in your abilities as well as those of teammates. Being trustworthy and being able to trust your teammates is the backbone of believing, Maintaining your role and positional responsibilities is essential in the face of adversity, Resisting the temptation to play outside your abilities, role and responsibilities is being resilient, Panicking and attempting to do more than you are capable of is the enemy of resiliency , Being accountable to yourself, your role, your positional responsibilities and your team is key to earning trust. Trusting each teammate to perform their responsibilities and helping them to put things right in the face of adversity instead of attempting to play hero ball by stepping outside of your own abilities and role is key. Instilling confidence and belief in one another is much preferred over trying to do someone else's job at the expense of your own responsibilities.
I believe each of these factors have a common trait - decision making. When we make good decisions about factors within our control, good things will happen including learning to win through being resilient and overcoming adversity.
Teach them to compete.
Teach them to win.
Sometimes that last step is the most difficult to achieve. No two situations are alike and there are so many different factors in play in the process. If I were to lump many of these factors together I would call the collective mental toughness. Factors that might be included in this group include the following:
Attitude: The quality of decisions we make directly reflects the quality of our play. In the case of attitude each player has a choice to make between having a positive attitude or a negative attitude. Whatever decision an athlete makes will directly impact his teammates as well. Both positivity and negativity are contagious.
Concentration: Teams that can bring focus to bear on relevant game related factors have a much improved chance of performing well. The details of the process are factors we can control because they involve decisions we must make. These range from executing with proper technique to knowing, accepting and adhering to individual roles on the team. In short, taking care of our individual business so we may be trusted by our teammates. Are we responsible in our technique, tactics, physical fitness and mental approach to both preparation for and playing of the game?
Preparation: I strongly recommend athletes develop a daily in-season routine with a focus on proper nutrition, proper sleep, proper physical preparation, proper mental preparation to play. Failing to prepare properly is preparing to fail. This is a basic truth, but one many athletes do not give full due consideration to. Goal setting is also a part of preparation. This means constant monitoring of goals, possibly adjusting goals in-season. And constant discussion of the process to achieve our goals is necessary.
Resiliency: The best teams I have been a part of have been resilient. As I have considered this trait it occurred to me that in club soccer while at tournaments I was often times unsure of our opponents playing level. I would research teams on the Internet or by word of mouth through coaching colleagues. I tell the cub teams we might be in over our heads even while encouraging them to play every minute of the game to the best of their ability and we'll see where we are at the final whistle. In taking this approach I have allowed the team to think of the possibility they will encounter adversity but also that we will continue playing through it. Visualization. Encounter adversity and plan for it. What will be our response? Develop a clear and strong concept of what we can control and focus on these areas while blocking out all things beyond our control.
Belief: It all comes down to believing in your abilities as well as those of teammates. Being trustworthy and being able to trust your teammates is the backbone of believing, Maintaining your role and positional responsibilities is essential in the face of adversity, Resisting the temptation to play outside your abilities, role and responsibilities is being resilient, Panicking and attempting to do more than you are capable of is the enemy of resiliency , Being accountable to yourself, your role, your positional responsibilities and your team is key to earning trust. Trusting each teammate to perform their responsibilities and helping them to put things right in the face of adversity instead of attempting to play hero ball by stepping outside of your own abilities and role is key. Instilling confidence and belief in one another is much preferred over trying to do someone else's job at the expense of your own responsibilities.
I believe each of these factors have a common trait - decision making. When we make good decisions about factors within our control, good things will happen including learning to win through being resilient and overcoming adversity.
Tuesday
Mistakes / Arrows / Propulsion / Perseverance
Wednesday
"You got it all wrong."
Memories.
A few years back when I had just begun the CBA Blog an opposing coach came up to me before a match and said, "I've read your blog. You got it all wrong. I used what you wrote as a scouting report on your team. We're going to show you how wrong you are!"
Well, okay then.
I have been coaching sports for nearly 35 years now. I have seen quite a bit. This is one of two pre-game meetings between coaches that really stands out in my memory.
To be honest, this guy unnerved me a little because I wasn't at all expecting this type of greeting. As I recall, I extended my hand and offered "Good Luck to you" then walked away. I never mentioned the encounter to my team. I did make a point about playing and executing our style of soccer though.
Let the opponent scout you all they want to because in the end it is always about execution.
I am not big on changing formations and styles of play from game to game. I believe in assessing my teams strengths and weaknesses, then selecting a formation and system of play that will work best for the team. In the preseason we may tinker with it all a bit, but we want everything in order early in the season. Then we stick with it. Fine tuning it as we go.
About as far as I will go in terms of dramatic adjustments for a specific opponent is to man-mark a individual opposing player whom everything the opponent wants to do on attack flows through. The "hub player," if you will. Think of it as soccer's version of a box and one basketball defense. Call it a 10 + 1 soccer tactic. Ten players staying in our zonal system of defending while one man marks the opponents hub player.
That evening the opponents came out all hyped up for the opening kickoff. Their coach had given them a scouting report based on my writings here on this site. One could see the excitement in their eyes, the energy coursing through their bodies. At that point I worried more about our team matching their intensity than anything else. Then again, maybe I was simply looking for these things because of the pregame meet with their coach?
The opponents had the kickoff and immediately came at us - a couple of quick touches between players as they moved directly down the field. As they approached our defending third the ball was sent wide where our left back read the play and intercepted their pass. He immediately hit the target forward in the next channel over, who dropped the ball back to a CM another channel over. The CM then played back against the flow to the left back streaking down the flank. We caught their defense shifting again when the left back crossed the ball as he entered the final third of the pitch and the other CM finished for our first goal. 27 seconds into the match and we are up 1 - 0.
So much for their scouting report on us.
The deflation of emotion was visually obvious in the opposing teams players. Several looked to their sidelines. The coach tried to pump them back up. We scored again about 3 minutes later. The rout was on. I was tempted to really pour it on them, but we didn't. No need to punish the opposing players for their coach's words. If I recall correctly, the game ended at 6-0 our favor. We held it down.
The opposing coach refused to shake my hand after the match. Go figure. A few days later I sent him an email offering to do a camp for him and his team. No response although I did get a "Read Receipt" back so it's possible he at least glanced at the email.
This article is not about my always being right. I am not and that is why I need my Savior, Jesus Christ in my life. I make mistakes every day. Lots of mistakes. We all do. How we handle the mistakes we make is what defines us on and off the field of play.
In the situation discussed here, I trusted our formation and system of play. More importantly, I trusted the players who would play the game for us. We went out and played as we had trained to play. What went in during training came out during play. Life is like this. What we allow into our hearts is what will be found in our minds and be manifested in our actions and words.
One of the best learning experiences I have had as a coach came when the team I was in charge of got a butt whupping the likes I had never before received nor have ever received since. It was an indoor game and the final score was something ridiculous like 0-24. I knew the opposing coach, Ray. As young men we had competed against each other in various sports. My side usually got the better of things. Not on this day. And I need to mention that I specifically requested of Ray that he not do anything to artificially hold the score down. He graciously did a few things anyway, but I viewed the beat down as a learning opportunity for our team. A few days after the match I searched Ray out and we talked a bit. I asked him to give me a scouting report on my team. He was a bit reluctant, but eventually acquiesced. I listened and I learned.
When we faced that team outdoors the next spring the result was much closer. They still won but the score was respectable. We were competitive. When we faced that team in a tournament the next fall we defeated them and won the championship. Ray and I have exchanged a few good natured barbs about how he helped build our team. I remain grateful for Ray's patience and honesty in evaluating our team's performance. He taught me a lot.
My offer to do a camp for the team we routed was made in the spirit of the game. I'm not sure it was received that way. The offer was not accepted. I did what I could do to help a fellow coach and improve the game a little bit. In the end, he got it all wrong. He made a mess of his teams play that day and refused help when it was offered.
As coaches and players of the beautiful game we have a responsibility to help one another uphold the spirit of the game. It's only when we think of ourselves as bigger than the game itself that we find ourselves in a real struggle. Again, life is like this for it is only when we think of ourselves as bigger than life itself do we tend to find ourselves struggling.
Oh, by the way, immediately after that 0-24 butt whupping I had the team back to our house for a pancake breakfast. The kids played video games and tossed a football around the yard. We didn't dwell on the loss one bit. And a side note to this story is the core of that team went all the way to the OHSAA Regional Finals as high school seniors.
A few years back when I had just begun the CBA Blog an opposing coach came up to me before a match and said, "I've read your blog. You got it all wrong. I used what you wrote as a scouting report on your team. We're going to show you how wrong you are!"
Well, okay then.
I have been coaching sports for nearly 35 years now. I have seen quite a bit. This is one of two pre-game meetings between coaches that really stands out in my memory.
To be honest, this guy unnerved me a little because I wasn't at all expecting this type of greeting. As I recall, I extended my hand and offered "Good Luck to you" then walked away. I never mentioned the encounter to my team. I did make a point about playing and executing our style of soccer though.
Let the opponent scout you all they want to because in the end it is always about execution.
I am not big on changing formations and styles of play from game to game. I believe in assessing my teams strengths and weaknesses, then selecting a formation and system of play that will work best for the team. In the preseason we may tinker with it all a bit, but we want everything in order early in the season. Then we stick with it. Fine tuning it as we go.
About as far as I will go in terms of dramatic adjustments for a specific opponent is to man-mark a individual opposing player whom everything the opponent wants to do on attack flows through. The "hub player," if you will. Think of it as soccer's version of a box and one basketball defense. Call it a 10 + 1 soccer tactic. Ten players staying in our zonal system of defending while one man marks the opponents hub player.
That evening the opponents came out all hyped up for the opening kickoff. Their coach had given them a scouting report based on my writings here on this site. One could see the excitement in their eyes, the energy coursing through their bodies. At that point I worried more about our team matching their intensity than anything else. Then again, maybe I was simply looking for these things because of the pregame meet with their coach?
The opponents had the kickoff and immediately came at us - a couple of quick touches between players as they moved directly down the field. As they approached our defending third the ball was sent wide where our left back read the play and intercepted their pass. He immediately hit the target forward in the next channel over, who dropped the ball back to a CM another channel over. The CM then played back against the flow to the left back streaking down the flank. We caught their defense shifting again when the left back crossed the ball as he entered the final third of the pitch and the other CM finished for our first goal. 27 seconds into the match and we are up 1 - 0.
So much for their scouting report on us.
The deflation of emotion was visually obvious in the opposing teams players. Several looked to their sidelines. The coach tried to pump them back up. We scored again about 3 minutes later. The rout was on. I was tempted to really pour it on them, but we didn't. No need to punish the opposing players for their coach's words. If I recall correctly, the game ended at 6-0 our favor. We held it down.
The opposing coach refused to shake my hand after the match. Go figure. A few days later I sent him an email offering to do a camp for him and his team. No response although I did get a "Read Receipt" back so it's possible he at least glanced at the email.
This article is not about my always being right. I am not and that is why I need my Savior, Jesus Christ in my life. I make mistakes every day. Lots of mistakes. We all do. How we handle the mistakes we make is what defines us on and off the field of play.
In the situation discussed here, I trusted our formation and system of play. More importantly, I trusted the players who would play the game for us. We went out and played as we had trained to play. What went in during training came out during play. Life is like this. What we allow into our hearts is what will be found in our minds and be manifested in our actions and words.
One of the best learning experiences I have had as a coach came when the team I was in charge of got a butt whupping the likes I had never before received nor have ever received since. It was an indoor game and the final score was something ridiculous like 0-24. I knew the opposing coach, Ray. As young men we had competed against each other in various sports. My side usually got the better of things. Not on this day. And I need to mention that I specifically requested of Ray that he not do anything to artificially hold the score down. He graciously did a few things anyway, but I viewed the beat down as a learning opportunity for our team. A few days after the match I searched Ray out and we talked a bit. I asked him to give me a scouting report on my team. He was a bit reluctant, but eventually acquiesced. I listened and I learned.
When we faced that team outdoors the next spring the result was much closer. They still won but the score was respectable. We were competitive. When we faced that team in a tournament the next fall we defeated them and won the championship. Ray and I have exchanged a few good natured barbs about how he helped build our team. I remain grateful for Ray's patience and honesty in evaluating our team's performance. He taught me a lot.
My offer to do a camp for the team we routed was made in the spirit of the game. I'm not sure it was received that way. The offer was not accepted. I did what I could do to help a fellow coach and improve the game a little bit. In the end, he got it all wrong. He made a mess of his teams play that day and refused help when it was offered.
As coaches and players of the beautiful game we have a responsibility to help one another uphold the spirit of the game. It's only when we think of ourselves as bigger than the game itself that we find ourselves in a real struggle. Again, life is like this for it is only when we think of ourselves as bigger than life itself do we tend to find ourselves struggling.
Oh, by the way, immediately after that 0-24 butt whupping I had the team back to our house for a pancake breakfast. The kids played video games and tossed a football around the yard. We didn't dwell on the loss one bit. And a side note to this story is the core of that team went all the way to the OHSAA Regional Finals as high school seniors.
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